Essential Oils, Lifestyle, Parenting

How to cope this Christmas

So the Big Day is just weeks away, but it is not an exciting time for all. Christmas can actually be an incredible stressful and anxious time for many people. Perhaps you feel completely overwhelmed with juggling overexcited kids, Christmas shopping, organising nativity costumes and all the things. Perhaps you were made redundant and this year you simply cannot afford a Christmas like the year before. Perhaps this is the first Christmas since a loved one died or your marriage separated. Perhaps this season marks the anniversary of a child in your care being removed from their family.

There are a whole host of reasons why we can feel anxious and overwhelmed during the festive season, and our emotions are incredibly powerful. So much so, that they actually affect our physical wellbeing. What we say and what we think can be as damaging as a physical injury, and by continuing to brush our feelings under the carpet we are causing more harm than good. If Christmas is a time that you dread, fear or avoid altogether, then maybe it is time to explore why that is with a therapist. In the meantime I would love to share a few tips on how we use essential oils to support emotions over the festive period.

What are essential oils?

Essential Oils can support our emotional health as they effect our emotional state. They can help us to feel more balanced and calm, and their use is referred to as ‘aromatherapy’.

Essential oils are the lifeblood of the plant, compounds which work to repair, restore and regulate the plant, and they can massively benefit us too. Essential oils are ‘volatile’ which means they quickly evaporate and are easy to inhale them either from a bottle, on fabric or on the skin. When inhaled, these minute essential oils molecule travel past our olfactory system, cross the blood/brain barrier (something very few medicines can do) and enter the limbic system of the brain. This is the area of the brain that controls our emotional response.

How do they work?

Smells are so important when it comes to considering emotional health. Our brain uses smells within our memory bank, and certain smells will trigger a response and take you right back to the memory of a time or place in your past. These can be both positive and negative.

Emotions are stored in our cells, and because essential oils are so tiny, they can enter our cells and help us process emotions on a cellular level. There are approximately 40 million trillion molecules in one drop of essential oil, which is approximately 40,000 molecules for each cell in the human body. So a little goes a long way!

Here are my top five essential oils for emotional support this season:


This is my go to oil when I feeling anxious or overwhelmed. This is a blend of Black Spruce, Blue Tansy, Camphor Wood, Geranium, and Frankincense and smells quite woodsy. I mainly use it topically to help with feelings of strength, courage and security, particularly if I am facing a tough day. It is also great if you are feeling alone or abandoned.

Stress Away

This exotic blend was created to combat normal stresses that creep into everyday life. Stress Away contains Lime, Copaiba, Lavender and Cedarwood and Ocotea essential oils and vanilla essence. We roll this blend on every day before school to uplift our mood and calm the mind, especially before a busy day or school tests. It also helps calm small people in new environments, or those who may be struggling with being away from home.


This is a sweet citrus scent that lifts the mood and helps with feelings of confidence. Bergamot is also widely known to help support those who are grieving or processing loss. I would diffuse this oil with Stress Away or apply topically to my skin with carrier oil.


We call this sunshine in a bottle and it is one of my all time favourite oils because, like other citrus oils, it is so uplifting.  I pair Orange oil with Joy or Valor for a gorgeous perfume that I can roll on throughout the day.  It is perfect for use on grey days, when you are feeling a bit down or sad, and it also supports your immune system too!


Thank Frank. Not only is this oil already famous because of baby Jesus, it is also incredibly grounding. It is a high frequency oil which supports your whole body physically, emotionally and spiritually. If you are looking for an oil to aid prayer and meditation or something to help the kiddos calm down in the chaos of Christmas, diffuse this with Lavender and Orange.

If you want to know more about essential oils and emotions then check out my video on YouTube or message with your questions. You can order any of these by creating a free account with Young Living. Simply click here!

R x

Faith, Parenting

Singing over me

Are you lying awake right now, scanning the screen to kill time while sleep continues to elude you?

As a self-confessed night owl, I am frequently found burning the midnight oil only to suffer the consequences at 6 am when my sons decide its breakfast time. My recent trip to Cherish women’s conference in Leeds (which requires a whole other blog to discuss!) was no exception to this rule, with God conversations running into the wee hours and early mornings to secure the best seats in the house, followed by a 2 hour drive home. I came back spiritually refreshed but physically exhausted!

Upon my return that Saturday night, I found my beautiful boys bundled up in their beds. I lay next to them, snuggling their warm bodies and inhaling their scent deeply while I kissed their sleeping heads. Oh how I had missed them, I felt like my heart could burst as I quietly sang a melody over them.

Did you know that God sings a melody over you?

He watches you while you sleep, he sees the weary arms and legs flop onto the mattress, pulling sheets and blankets around your shoulders to shut out the world as you sink into slumber. God sees when you cry silent tears into the pillow for a love lost. He watches you as you toss and turn, reliving painful memories or fretting about the future. He hears the very thoughts in your mind as you lie awake pondering how to overcome a situation at work.

And all the while He is singing.

The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing. Zephaniah 3:17

Singing melodies over your soul to gently soothe your troubled mind and reveal more and more of his power and grace. He instructs the angels to stand by your bedside and protect you from harm. God himself lays down next to you and wraps you up in a loving embrace to reveal his Father heart for his sons and daughters.

And he misses you.

Your absence from church hasn’t gone unnoticed by your heavenly father. Your polite decline to the numerous connect group meetings have not been overlooked. Your reluctance to come and sit in the presence of God and simply talk to him, breaks his heart.

God misses you!

As a Father and Mother miss their child when they are away, so too does our heavenly Father when we wander from the path that he has predestined for you. Absence certainly does make the heart grow fonder however, and with each passing day God is increasingly aware that you are hovering dangerously out of teach, vulnerable to distraction or attacking not safe in his arms, and he wants to draw you in to him, into his peace and into his purpose.

So as you lay yourself down to sleep, I pray the Lord your soul shall keep.
And I pray the Lord will let you hear, his songs of love whispered in your ear.